Friday, 31 August 2012

Have Faith In Divine Preordainment

Allah SWT said: Verily, We have created all things with Qadar (Divine Preordainments) before their creations, as written in the Book of Decrees (Al Lauh Al Mahfooz) - Quran 54:49. Allah SWT said: He to Whom belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth, and Who has begotten no son and for Whom there is no partner in the dominion. He has created everything, and has measured it exactly according to its due measurements - Quran 25:2.

One of the greatest gifts I received from Allah SWT in my journey as a muslim (convert) is very specifically the above verse. It happens to be one of the pillars of faith. Let me share how this has touched my life and as a dakwah to all. Having strong faith in Divine Preordainment will bear many fruits for all of us in terms of an improvement in character, blessings in this world, and reward in the Hereafter. If we, too, have faith in Divine Preordainment, we will, Inshallah, enjoy the same fruits and blessings as follows:

1.The fulfillment of one’s duty to worship Allah SWT – by acting according to the implications of that faith (one of the six pillars of Iman), one is worshipping Allah SWT which is the purpose for which mankind was created.

2.Faith in Divine Preordainment helps save on from Shirk (associating partners with Allah in worship). One who believes in Divine Preordainment believes that only Allah can harm or benefit, honor or humiliate, raise or demote. This knowledge helps the believer to stay far away from Shirk.

3.A person who correctly believes in Divine Preordainment becomes brave and courageous, since he knows that he will not die when another person wants him to die, but only when Allah SWT has decreed for him to die.

3.Patience and a willingness to endure hardships for future rewards: When one believes in Divine Preordainment, one knows for certain that the tests of life ultimately come not from one’s antagonists or from a random series of coincidences, but instead from Allah SWT. With this knowledge and belief, the true believer knows that, if he patiently endures the trials and hardships of life, Allah SWT will reward him with a reward that is much greater than the patience and sacrifices that are required of him; on the other hand, when one believes that the tests and trials of life are random coincidences, one won’t feel that one has a strong reason to be patient and endure hardships with steadfastness.

4.A restful, peaceful heart: When one knows that it is upon him to strive and that it is for Allah SWT to decree results, one will not feel restless or agitated when things go contrary to his plans. Such a person knows that Allah SWT is Most Merciful and Most Just; therefore, whatever He decrees for His slaves is what is best for them. A heart and mind that are at peace is what every person desires, but only those who have faith in Divine Preordainment can achieve that sense of peace to its fullest degree.

5.Contentment, self dignity, and freedom from servitude to created beings: A believer of Divine Preordainment knows that his sustenance is in the Hand Of Allah SWT, Who provides for him and is sufficient for him. He also knows that he will not die until he receives in full amount the sustenance that Allah SWT has decreed for him. So no matter how hard it is that others try to provide him with or prevent him from sustenance, they will only be able to do that which Allah SWT has decreed for them to. A sense of contentment is the resultant of such knowledge. Rather than hope for help from another human being, the believer expects and hopes for help from Allah SWT alone. The fruits of having faith in Divine Preordainment are many.

At some point in my life, I was guilty of trying to craft my future but I was humbled by the belief that this iman was pre-ordained by Allah SWT.

Thank you for reading this and Inshaallah the state of our Ummah will be brighter.

The Prophet's supplication when he left Makkah

With this upcoming Eid and holidays ahead of us, I always remember the Prophet’s supplication before he departed from Makkah to Madeenah after hiding in the cave at Mount Thaur with his companion, Abu Bakar and where the Islamic year commenced thereafter. The Prophet’s supplication was so powerful I thought I'd share it with you. So powerful and sincere was his supplication that we cannot do it as eloquently today:

He commenced by invoking praises as he would usually do: All praise is for Allah, Who created me, prior to which time I was non-existent.

O Allah, help me overcome the terror of the world.
O Allah, help me overcome the vicissitudes of time and the hardships of the nights and days.
O Allah, be my Companion on my journey and my Successor over my family.
O Allah, bless me in that which You have provided for me
O Allah, make me humble to and for You and make me upright in character
O Allah, make me beloved to You
O Allah, do not make me dependent upon people,
O Allah, I seek refuge from Your anger befalling me and from Your Wrath descending upon me.
O Allah, I seek refuge with You from the termination of Your Favour, from the suddenness of Your wrath, from the departure of the good health that You bless me with and from all forms of Your wrath.
O Allah, it is Your right that I should strive to please you as much as I am able to, for there is neither might nor power except with You.

A Walk with Allah by Prof. Dr. Mohd. Shahir Liew

The following posts will be copies of Dr. Shahir Liew's writings from his blog 'A Walk with Allah' for the benefit of those who had not the chance to read them since his blog is no longer active. I admired his writings - deeply reflective with a smooth writing style. First time I read his blog, I was so inspired that he being a revert, is closer to Allah than me. Unfortunately, his blog is no longer active but since I followed him, I can access his posts through Google reader. But I will lay down his posts for you to read. Be enlightened.

Wednesday, 29 August 2012

Eat Less Rice!

The human body was never meant to consume rice!  You see, our genes have hardly changed in more than 30,000 years. However, our food choices and lifestyle have changed dramatically. The caveman would hardly recognise our food or way of life. Caveman food was never cooked as fire was not yet tamed. Thus, he ate only those foods that you can eat without treatment with or by fire. He ate fruits, vegetables, fish (sushi anyone?), eggs, nuts and meat. Yes, even meat! You can even eat meat raw if you were starving in the forest. You have the necessary enzymes to digest meat. However, rice, like wheat and corn, cannot be eaten raw. It must be cooked. Even if you were starving in the desert, you cannot eat rice in the raw form. This is because we do not have the system of enzymes to break rice down. You were never meant to eat rice. To make matters worse, you not only eat rice, but also make it the bulk of your food. In some parts of Asia , rice forms up to 85% of the plate. Even if you take rice, keep it to a minimum. Remember, it is only for your tongue - not your body. Actually, rice and other grains like wheat and corn are actually worse than sugar. There are many reasons: Rice becomes sugar - lots of it! This is a fact that no nutritionist can deny: rice is chemically no different from sugar. One bowl of cooked rice is the caloric equal of 10 teaspoons of sugar. This does not matter whether it is white, brown or herbal rice. Brown rice is richer in fibre, some B vitamins and minerals but it is still the caloric equal of 10 teaspoons of sugar. To get the same 10 teaspoons of sugar, you need to consume lots of kangkong -10 bowls of it. Rice is digested to become sugar. Rice cannot be digested before it is thoroughly cooked. However, when thoroughly cooked, it becomes sugar and spikes circulating blood sugar within half an hour-almost as quickly as it would if you took a sugar candy. Rice is very low in the 'rainbow of anti-oxidants.' This complete anti-oxidant rainbow is necessary for the effective and safe utilisation of sugar. Fruits come with a sugar called fructose. However, they are not empty calories as the fruit is packed with a whole host of other nutrients that help its proper assimilation and digestion. Rice has no fibre. The fibre of the kangkong fills you up long before your blood sugar spikes. This is because the fibre bulks and fills up your stomach. Since white rice has no fibre, you end up eating lots of 'calorie dense' food before you get filled up. Brown rice has more fibre but still the same amount of sugar. Rice is tasteless-sugar is sweet. There is only so much that you can eat at one sitting. How many teaspoons of sugar can you eat before you feel like throwing up? Could you imagine eating 10 teaspoons of sugar in one seating? 

Rice is always the main part of the meal.
While sugar may fill your dessert or sweeten your coffee, it will never be the main part of any meal. You could eat maybe two to three teaspoons of sugar at one meal. However, you could easily eat the equal value of two to three bowls (20-30 teaspoons) of sugar in one meal. I am always amused when I see someone eat sometimes five bowls of rice (equals 50 teaspoons of sugar) and then asks for tea tarik kurang manis! There is no real 'built in' mechanism for us to prevent overeating of rice: How much kangkong can you eat? How much fried chicken can you eat? How much steamed fish can you eat? Think about that! In one seating, you cannot take lots of chicken , fish or cucumber, but you can take lots of rice. Eating rice causes you to eat more salt. As rice is tasteless, you tend to consume more salt - another villain when it comes to high blood pressure. You tend to take more curry that has salt to help flavor rice. We also tend to consume more ketchup and soy sauce which are also rich in salt. Eating rice causes you to drink less water. The more rice you eat, the less water you will drink as there is no mechanism to prevent the overeating of rice. Rice, wheat and corn come hidden in our daily food. As rice is tasteless, it tends to end up in other foods that substitute rice like rice flour, noodles and bread. We tend to eat the hidden forms which still get digested into sugar. Rice, even when cooked, is difficult to digest. Can't eat raw rice? Try eating rice half cooked. Contrary to popular belief, rice is very difficult to digest. It is 'heavy stuff'. If you have problems with digestion, try skipping rice for a few days. You will be amazed at how the problem will just go away. Rice prevents the absorption of several vitamins and minerals. Rice when taken in bulk will reduce the absorption of vital nutrients like zinc, iron and the B vitamins. Are you a rice addict? Going rice-less may not be easy but you can go rice-less. Eating less rice could be lot easier than you think. Here are some strategies that you can pursue in your quest to eat less rice: 

Eat less rice - cut your rice by half.
Barry Sears, author of the Zone Diet, advises 'eating rice like spice'. Instead, increase your fruits and vegetables. Take more lean meats and fish. You can even take more eggs and nuts. Have 'riceless' meals.Take no rice or wheat at say, breakfast. Go for eggs instead. Go on 'riceless' days. Go 'western' once a week. Take no rice and breads for one day every week. That can't be too difficult. Appreciate the richness of your food. Go for taste, colours and smells. Make eating a culinary delight. Enjoy your food in the original flavours.Avoid the salt shaker or ketchup.You will automatically eat less rice.Eat your fruit dessert before (Yes! No printing error) your meals.The fibre rich fruits will 'bulk up' in your stomach. Thus, you will eat less rice and more fruits. It's your life. Decide what you want to eat! But eat less rice!

Be Kind to Your Parents

On your right side, you know that in the Quran Allah swt says to be kind to your parents. No conditions are set. No matter who they are or what they do, you must be kind to them. The displeasure of your parents only means the displeasure of Allah.

On your left Satan whispers: be impatient, let your anger out. Your parents are overbearing, impossible to please. In any case you have done your best, they should be grateful to have a son/daughter like you.

You listen to Satan, justifying to yourself that you really have done all you can. As they grow old and grumpy, demanding and delicate - just like when you were little, you forget their sacrifices for you. You only remember the ugly moments. You forget they are only human, subject to all and every weakness you may succumb to, yourself.

Then one of them departs, and suddenly everything becomes crystal clear: you can never repay their kindness to you! When you were helpless they gave you love, fed you and clothed you. They sent you to the best schools they could afford. They lay low just so you could soar.

But now it's too late. Did they die having forgiven you? Did they know you cared? Or did they go to meet the Lord thinking you have forsaken them?

To redeem yourself, know that their only link with you now is your du'a. Three things that go with them when they depart, and one of them is your du'a. Ask Allah to forgive their sins, pardon their mistakes, lift their station, place their soul among the souls of the righteous and the faithful, and give them Paradise. Redeem yourself by doing good deeds and gifting the rewards Allah may give for those good deeds to them.

Those of you whose parents are still around, be kind and do good to them. Ask Allah for strength if they test your patience (which they very likely will, when they get old). One day we will get old, too. And our departure will come. May Allah give us all a good ending to our lives آمِيّنْ... آمِيّنْ آمِّيْنَ يَا رَبَّ الْعَالَمِيْنَ .

Sunday, 26 August 2012

I Dream of Jeans, Syariah Compliant Jeans

Jeans are so out for covering the aurah of muslimah. Being inherently designed to accentuate the shape of the female lower torso for the sake of being attractive, I find it impossible to find jeans that are syariah compliant. Whatmore, they are almost exclusively designed by men who have no clue to syariah compliant designs, they being non-syariah compliant themselves (read non-muslims). Almost certainly they are from the West or a product of Western education and culture.

But sad to say, almost everywhere you go, you will see muslimah bent on wearing jeans as part of their pseudo-syariah compliant attire, what with the short head covering (exposing the shape of their breasts), short ill-fitting T-shirts/blouses that do not cover their forearms nor their butt all the while convincing themselves they are conforming to accepted norms of the day. How confused and muddled they are on what constitutes syariah compliant garb.

As highlighted in Quran Surah AnNur verse 31 and in  the Prophet's Tradition or Hadith, the head covering must extend till the chest is covered. Only the face and hands are permissible to be exposed. The garments must not be transparent and hide the shape of the body. The top should extend till it reaches the tips of the fingers with the hands hanging by the side. This is to cover the shape of the behind. While the pants should be loose fitting and extend until below the ankles. To prevent from the feet being inadvertently exposed, wear fully covered shoes with or without socks. The sleeves should be loose and preferrably with cuffs to prevent from being pulled up and exposing the forearms. Or wear loose fitting inner sleeves with wrist grip. There should be a MS for syariah compliant wear. And there must not be elements of tabarruj or the intention to attract attention especially mens'.

We need to educate our muslimah in a big way and fast. Not only the muslimah but also the muslimins for being fathers, husbands, brothers and sons, it is their duty and responsibility entrusted upon them by Allah Our Creator and Master, All Glory be Unto Him, to educate their muslimah to obey what had been explicitly commanded by Allah in the Quran Al-Karim. And also themselves to lower their gaze and not ogle at womens' aurah.

Alas, the challenges are numerous and never ending but with perseverance and by the help of Allah, we will prevail. But we must rise to the occasion and put complacency and the western values so deeply immersed in us in the wastepit where it belong. Adopt the Prophet's examples, the Sunnah. Only then, will there be hope. But move we must, dear brothers and sisters. Sleep no more. It is time to wake up.

18 Ways to Achieve Greatness through Gratefulness By Taha Ghayyur

Whether you consider yourself a positive, easy-going person or a demanding, hard to please person, these tips can help you become a more grateful, caring, and content individual.

There is much more to gratitude and Shukr (thankfulness) in Islam than a mere “Thank You” that our ears have become so used to ignoring. Discover how you can be more thankful to Allah and His creation.

1.Stop Complaining and be positive! This is the first step towards being thankful to Allah and people around you. We have become a community of complainers and whiners, which has lead to a collective psychology of negativity and unproductively.

Stop complaining about the economy, weather, politicians, traffic, or ‘the system’. Refrain from blaming your Masjid, Imams, parents, spouse, in-laws, children, or boss. If you think with an open mind, you may find more positives in your circumstances and the people around you than negatives.

2.Say “Al-hamdulillah” (All thanks and praise belongs to Allah) often:
A constant utterance of this phrase reminds you of the source of all blessings and happiness in this life. This practice of attributing all good actions to Allah keeps you humble and content and has a positive affect on your relations with people.

Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, has instructed us to say “Al-hamdulillah” on daily basis: “Allah is pleased with His servant if, when he eats something he thanks Allah for it, and when he drinks something he thanks Allah for it” (Muslim).

3. Respect others’ time and schedule: Part of ungratefulness is wastage of time. As a scholar once said, "Time is not just money. It is more expensive than gold, diamonds and pearls. Time is life itself!"

Arriving late at a meeting or a class, cancelling appointments last minute, or starting off a program late, are not only a big waste of time and disrespectful to others, but also a lack of appreciation of others’ time on your part.

4. Seize the opportunity while you can. Procrastination in offering your prayers, delaying a donation to a humanitarian cause, or filling your leisure time with unproductive or unlawful activities is ingratitude to Allah for the limited time and opportunity He has given you to do good and to achieve Paradise.

Prophet Muhammad warned us, "Good health and spare time are two of the blessings of Allah with respect to which many people are deceived." (Bukhari)

Even if you live till tomorrow, what guarantee do you have that there won't be any obstacles in carrying out a good action. The Prophet used to call on Muslims to take the initiative to do good deeds before any problems arise.

5. Spend 15 minutes daily to think about things that you should be thankful for:
Recall people in your life, whom you may have taken for granted like your parents, spouse, children, co-worker, or teacher, who were caring and loving.

List some of Allah’s gifts that are not tangible or were not obvious to you before. Sulayman, a follower of the Prophet’s Companions, once said: “Remembering His blessings makes one love Allah.”

This simple mental exercise not only makes you a grateful person, but also a healthy one. According to a 2001 research by the Institute for Research on Unlimited Love (IRUL), based in Ohio, just 15 minutes a day focusing on the things you are grateful for will significantly increase your body’s natural antibodies, will make you less vulnerable to clinical depression, and will keep your blood pressure and heart rate stable.

6. Be patient and grateful when disasters strike:
The depth and strength of your gratitude is tested in difficult times. Allah wants to see how thankful you truly are when you loose your job or a loved one, or when you feel ill and or get injured.

It helps to know that in times of calamity and distress, there will be some good for you, provided you respond appropriately. The Prophet said, “How wonderful is the case of a Believer! There is good for him in whatever happens to him -and none, apart from him, enjoys this blessing.” (Muslim)

Sufyan al-Thawri, a famous early scholar of Islam, said, “He does not understand religion properly who does not count affliction as a blessing and ease as a trial.”

7. Donate your time, talent, money, and advice to social work and non-profit efforts:
In our profit-driven culture, it is burdensome to squeeze out time and wealth for others. Your selfless service and generosity towards people in need and non-profit organizations is a sure way of showing gratitude to Allah and to your community.

The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him said, “People are dependants of Allah; the closest to Him are those who are most useful to His dependants” (Muslim).

"As the blessings from Allah to a servant increase, so will the people's needs of that blessed servant's services. If the servant ignores their needs, it will cause those blessings to be removed" (lbn Hibban).

8. Visit the sick, the terminally ill, and the disabled:
Frequenting patients and families of the deceased, not only brings comfort to them and brings multiple rewards from Allah to you, it also helps you appreciate your own good health and opportunities you have in life to serve others.

9. Share the message of Islam:
If you appreciate the guidance of Islam as your most precious treasure, don’t hesitate to share it with others. If Islam has changed your life for the better, what’s holding you back from inviting your friends, family, neighbours, and co-workers to explore this message of hope and positive transformation?

10. Recite and memorize the Duas of Prophet Muhammad:
The most natural and beautiful way to thank Allah is the words of the Prophet himself.

The Prophet told Muadh, “By Allah, I love you, so do not forget to say at the end of every prayer, ‘O Allah, help me to remember You and to give thanks to You and to worship You well’” (Ahmad and At-Tirmidhî).

11. Fall in Prostration (Sajda) when you receive a blessing from Allah:
Prophet Muhammad used to prostrate (Sajda) to Allah whenever he received something pleasant or was told good news to thank Allah for the grace he had received.

12. Don’t consider any blessing too small:
Treat all gifts of Allah with equal respect and gratitude, lest you lose it one day for good. Aishah said that the Prophet entered upon her one day and saw a small piece of bread on the floor, so he picked it up and wiped it, then told her: “O Aishah, treat the blessings of Allah with respect, for when it departs from a household it may never come back to them” (Abud Dunya).

13. Use and display Allah’s blessings moderately.
Part of being grateful to Allah is to look presentable and clean, and spend money on yourself with moderation.

Abul-Akhwas nar­rated that his father said: “I came to the Messenger of Allah looking dishevelled and scruffy. He asked me, ‘Do you have any possessions?’ I said, ‘Yes.’ He asked me what sort, and I told him, ‘I have all sorts. Allah has given me camels, horses, slaves and sheep.’ The Prophet said: ‘If Allah has given you all of that, then let Him see His blessing on you.’”

14. Don’t be too picky and accommodate others!
Some people express their discomfort (perhaps unintentionally) with anything that they are not used to. They may be too picky about their taste of food, clothing and furniture; they may get irritated easily in new environments; they may like meeting only a certain type of people; they may not like working with others.

This insensitivity to other people’s preferences and inability to accommodate others is a sign of selfishness, arrogance, and ungratefulness. Be content in every situation and you will become grateful.

15. Admire those below you and keep your expectations low: 
A lot of times the reason for our ungrateful behaviour is that we are constantly comparing our material success with the wealthier, healthier, and more accomplished. In our race to ‘keep-up-with-the-Ahmad-family’ next door, we forget so many obvious blessings that others may not enjoy and we should be thankful for.

The Prophet admonished us, "Look at those people who have less than you and never look at those who have more grants than you, this will ensure that you will not depreciate Allah's favours" (Muslim).

16. Thank people for littlest things: People like to be appreciated for little favours they do for us, which often get ignored in our busy routines. When was the last time you thanked your little son for taking care of simple chore for you? Has your husband heard a compliment from you lately?

Take the time to thank them for their thoughtfulness. As the Prophet stated, “The one who does not give thanks for a small blessing will not give thanks for a great blessing, and the one who does not give thanks to people will not give thanks to Allah” (Abud Dunya).

17. Compliments & recognition and motivate team members:
Whether you are an employer or a manager at work, or lead a volunteer based project, or simply a team player, a personal recognition significantly boosts the employee or volunteer morale.

As Stephen Robbins in his book “The Truth about Managing People” explains, several organizational behaviour studies have indicated employees and volunteers rate personal thanks and recognition from a superior for a job well-done as the most motivating of a variety of incentives; yet not many team leaders use this simple, cost-effective technique that works like magic! What kinds of personal recognition and group success incentives does your organization have in place?

18. When you thank someone, make sure you mean it:
When you say “Jazakallahu Khayran” (May Allah reward you the best) to your wife, does it come from your heart? Or is it received as another cold cliché?

Be a little creative when you really want to express your gratitude to someone. Say it with a personal thank you card. Show it with flowers. Accompany it with a genuine smile. Charge it with emotions. Enhance it with a meal or a meaningful gift.

 I hope that after reading this, people will appreciate everything around them. The problems in this world today are all stemming from ungratefulness, greed and selfishness. God Almighty have mercy on all of us.


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TAZKIRAH: Tabarruj

TAZKIRAH: Tabarruj: Firman Allah, “Dan hendaklah kalian tetap di rumah kalian dan janganlah kalian bertabarruj seperti orang-orang jahiliyah yang dahulu”. (Al-...

Saturday, 25 August 2012

Kenduri Kahwin Orang Sunnah yang menyalahi sunnah

Hujung minggu ni banyak betui majlis walimah. Alhamdulillah maka semakin bertambah ramai umat dalam melaksanakan sunnah Rasulullah SAW mendirikan syiar Islam. Dapat menghindar pasangan dari kancah zinaah.

Eh, nanti sat. Betuika ikut sunnah?

Majlis walimah ikut sunnah ka? Kalau ikut sunnah, Nabi SAW potong kambing seekor saja. Tak membazir, tak menunjuk2, sederhana dan dijemput sama orang susah fakir miskin anak yatim dan tiada membezakan antara tetamu. Malah VVIP Rasulullah ialah golongan bertaqwa, alim, susah, anak yatim dan para fakir miskin.

Tiada ikhtilat-pergaulan bebas lelaki wanita, tabarruj dan pendedahan aurat.

Tiada persandingan maupun pengantin Raja sehari yg berpakaian berlebihan tambah mendedah aurat dan tabarujj. Pengantin yg melayan tetamu bukan org lain melayan mereka.

Majlis walimah untuk menzahirkan rasa syukur lebih afdhal diadakan selepas mengecap nikmat bersama, bukannya malam pertama seminggu selepas itu.

Rasa syukur yg dizahirkan dgn memuji-muji Allah SWT melalui zikir, solat jemaah, tazkirah.

Apakah bisa majlis walimah diadakan dgn penuh barakah mengikut syariat dan sunnah tanpa dicemari adat yg mengundang bala dan kemurkaan Allah SWT?

Kalau boleh bernikah di masjid, adakah bisa berwalimah di masjid juga? Dapatlah juga mengimarahkan masjid dengan jemaah zohor dan asar yang pasti ramai. Allahuakbar! Sepatutnya inilah satu fungsi utamanya.

Janganlah bila akad nikah syaitan menangis tetapi bila walimah syaitan tersenyum suka....nauzubillahiminzalik.
Photo: Hujung minggu ni banyak betui majlis walimah. Alhamdulillah maka semakin bertambah ramai umat dalam melaksanakan sunnah Rasulullah SAW mendirikan syiar Islam. Dapat menghindar pasangan dari kancah zinaah.
Eh, nanti sat. Betuika ikut sunnah? Majlis walimah ikut sunnah ka? Kalau ikut sunnah, Nabi SAW potong kambing seekor saja. Tak membazir, tak menunjuk2, sederhana dan dijemput sama orang susah fakir miskin anak yatim dan tiada membezakan antara tetamu. Malah VVIP Rasulullah ialah golongan bertaqwa, alim, susah, anak yatim dan para fakir miskin.
Tiada ikhtilat-pergaulan bebas lelaki wanita, tabarruj dan pendedahan aurat. 
Tiada persandingan maupun pengantin Raja sehari yg berpakaian berlebihan tambah mendedah aurat dan tabarujj. Pengantin yg melayan tetamu bukan org lain melayan mereka.
Majlis walimah untuk menzahirkan rasa syukur lebih afdhal diadakan selepas mengecap nikmat bersama, bukannya malam pertama seminggu selepas itu.
Rasa syukur yg dizahirkan dgn memuji-muji Allah SWT melalui zikir, solat jemaah, tazkirah.
Apakah bisa majlis walimah diadakan dgn penuh barakah mengikut syariat dan sunnah tanpa dicemari adat yg mengundang bala dan kemurkaan Allah SWT? 
Kalau boleh bernikah di masjid, adakah bisa berwalimah di masjid juga? Dapatlah juga mengimarahkan masjid dengan jemaah zohor dan asar yang pasti ramai. Allahuakbar! Sepatutnya inilah satu fungsi utamanya.
Janganlah bila akaq nikah syaitan menangis tetapi bila walimah syaitan tersenyum suka....nauzubillahiminzalik.

Pandangan Seorang Ustaz: Kenduri Kahwin Orang Sunnah yang menyalahi sunnah