On
your right side, you know that in the Quran Allah swt says to be kind
to your parents. No conditions are set. No matter who they are or what
they do, you must be kind to them. The displeasure of your parents only
means the displeasure of Allah.
On your left Satan whispers: be
impatient, let your anger out. Your parents are overbearing, impossible
to please. In any case you have done your best, they should be grateful
to have a son/daughter like you.
You listen to Satan, justifying
to yourself that you really have done all you can. As they grow old and
grumpy, demanding and delicate - just like when you were little, you
forget their sacrifices for you. You only remember the ugly moments. You
forget they are only human, subject to all and every weakness you may
succumb to, yourself.
Then one of them departs, and suddenly
everything becomes crystal clear: you can never repay their kindness to
you! When you were helpless they gave you love, fed you and clothed you.
They sent you to the best schools they could afford. They lay low just
so you could soar.
But now it's too late. Did they die having
forgiven you? Did they know you cared? Or did they go to meet the Lord
thinking you have forsaken them?
To redeem yourself, know that
their only link with you now is your du'a. Three things that go with
them when they depart, and one of them is your du'a. Ask Allah to
forgive their sins, pardon their mistakes, lift their station, place
their soul among the souls of the righteous and the faithful, and give
them Paradise. Redeem yourself by doing good deeds and gifting the
rewards Allah may give for those good deeds to them.
Those of
you whose parents are still around, be kind and do good to them. Ask
Allah for strength if they test your patience (which they very likely
will, when they get old). One day we will get old, too. And our
departure will come. May Allah give us all a good ending to our lives
آمِيّنْ... آمِيّنْ آمِّيْنَ يَا رَبَّ الْعَالَمِيْنَ .
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